The problem is, you can’t be ‘too nice’. Being excessively nice will land you into problems. If you have been too nice, you may have faced some of these issues:
1. You have been taken advantage of
Niceties are needed in difficult environments, but sometimes, when you are in a competitive atmosphere, you just can’t be too nice. Others are there to compete with you, and you have to fight. They might even manipulate you to keep you behind. Don’t let them take advantage of you. Know your surroundings and act accordingly.
2. Your boundaries are not respected
Being nice, you don’t say much to other people. They interpret this as an invitation to walk all over you. They will try to push boundaries just to test how much you can take. Often, if you do break, they’ll say it was a misunderstanding and confuse you. Sometimes it could be so, but use your logic to find out when you are being manipulated.
3. People don’t care
Not all people are empathetic. Some would do anything to get what they want. They don’t care about others. They are selfish and they’re probably not even aware of that. It might come naturally to them, or they are no longer nice. You need to be assertive. Express your need. While you may not have the desire to come across as mean, rude, or unkind, you should not be treated poorly either. Create an uproar if you need to.
4. Missing out on treating yourself
Nice people tend to invest a lot of time and resources on other people. They don’t like it when people are upset and, in the end, they start helping them. The problem is they give away too much of their resources that way. Not everybody deserves your niceness. The most important person that needs it is YOU.
5. People will have trust issues around you
Very few people are nice and we become skeptical about nice people. We believe they must have an ulterior motive. Many people view unwarranted niceness as suspicious behavior. Don’t let it bother you. You can’t blame them. Voice your opinion and be patient. They will surely respond to your niceness one day.
6. Your perception might be distorted
We all need to be with the right group. It’s best if nice people are surrounded by kind friends. They promise security. But sometimes, they end up being complacent and start helping those who don’t appreciate their help. You end up getting hurt. Sometimes, you need to look out for yourself too. Be selfish if you have to.